About Me

Hello my name is Sarah Jane and this is my story…

I’m a 40 something single mum to an amazing little boy who is my world. I was always quite a positive, resilient and determined person, I faced adversity and difficult times in my life, like most people, but made it to my mid thirties dealing with things well, and getting on with life. 

Yes there were ups and downs, like everyone, but I could always get through them and always saw light at the end of the tunnel… I had a great circle of friends and a successful career. But after a number of large life events, in a short space of time, I lost my way, I lost my voice, and I didn’t know what to do next… I felt like I was going through the motions, but not actually living my life. I felt out of control and didn’t know how to get it back. I found it really hard as I didn’t know where to turn, it had started affecting my physical health, my sleep, my weight, my hair even started falling out… I was so anxious all of the time.

While waiting for support from the NHS, I began to look at other ways to help myself, trying things like Mindfulness and Journaling etc…Then I found Positive Focus; a way to live gratefully, a way to look at the things that were important to me, a way to change my perspective; with this and NLP techniques I have found a new way to live… A way to look at things from a different view point, a way to let go of the things I cannot control, but a way to take control of the things I want to change…

Now don’t get me wrong, that doesn’t mean I don’t still have days where I feel overwhelmed, or days

where I feel overwhelmed, or days where I feel like I am not good enough, but today I have the tools to process those feelings and move forward. Self worth, or self belief isn’t about never doubting yourself or feeling fearful, but it is about not letting those worries stop you achieving the things you want to achieve. It’s about using them to be stronger and more confident, by changing the way you look at things and the way you react to other people. You have the power to control that, even when you cannot control the things around you. I want to pass on these amazing techniques, and lessons I have learned by building a safe place for others who have lost their way, so my life journey can be someone else’s map… If we all lift each other up, we are all stronger for it.


What is Positive Focus?

Positive Focus is learning to look at things from a different perspective, it’s about changing how we react and interact, so that we are in control of our emotions instead of letting them control us. We make most of our decisions based on our subconscious responses to situations, these have been learned over time and do not always give us the best outcome.  So by retraining our subconscious brain, we can change how we do things and take back control.

What can you help with ?

Here are some of the areas that coaching can help you improve:
  • Elimination of long-held fears and anxieties
  • Improved communication skills
  • Stronger relationships with friends and family
  • Relationships
  • Addiction 
  • Better work/life balance
  • More satisfying work life
  • Career change

What happens in a session?

All session work starts with a discovery call to get to know each other and see where you are and if I am the right person for you.  The relationship between a coach and client has to be one of mutual trust and responsibility.  If I feel I am not the right person I will signpost you to other help, similarly if you do not feel a connection there is no pressure to book sessions.  


Once we are both happy that the relationship is one that will benefit you, sessions take a number of forms working through various exercises such as Emotional Release Technique or Parts Integration.  This really does depend on what you need to work through.  There will be work set for you to do between sessions to practice what has been taught or to prepare for the next session.  Each session begins with a reflection on what we have covered so far, then an explanation of the next step.  

How many sessions will I need?

This very much depends on where you are as a starting point, as everyone is different, however most people see a noticeable change after 6 to 8 sessions.  The purpose of working with a coach  is slightly different to a counselor or therapist, where you are not working through a specific issue or event one at a time, but rather you are learning the tools to be able to work through these things yourself.  While there is some reflection on what has gotten you to this point; that is not what is focused on, there are techniques taught to help you separate your previous responses to situations from those you have not yet faced.  

How often are sessions & how long do they last?

Most people have a session once a fortnight, but can be booked three or four weekly.  It really does work around you as it depends on your available time, both for actual sessions and to be able to do the work in between that is set at each session [I explain this in more detail in the next question].  
A session lasts 45-50 minutes and can be done in person or over zoom, depending on location.

“When you are standing in a forest of sorrow or uncertainty, you cannot imagine that you could ever find your way to a better place. But if someone can assure you that they themselves have stood in that same place, and now have moved on, sometimes this will bring hope.”

Elizabeth Gilbert



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